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Ask the Psychologist / Re: my brother
« Last post by Joseph on July 24, 2010, 08:03:13 PM »
Dear Andrew,

Conflicts between siblings arise in any family. You know, there is an Arabic saying: "I against my brother; my brother and I against my cousin; I, my brother, and my cousin against the stranger". Usually each child in a family competes to define who they are as individuals and want to show that they are separate from their siblings, your case, however, seems to be different.
 
What I would suggest to start with is a calm and assertive talk with  your brother. Communication is extremely important. You did not mention  if you had a talk with your brother or not, so I'll assume not.

In any relationship, a lack of communication causes problems. General communication principles that can improve your relationship with your brother include:
  • Avoid sarcasm. It makes it hard for your brother to understand what you mean.
  • Stick to the facts.
  • Avoid interpreting behavior. You can never be sure why your brother has done what he has done, so don't try to tell him what his behavior means.
  • Don't ask questions if you're not willing to hear the answer.
  • Don't wait too long to voice complaints. The longer you wait the more your resentment builds.
  • When you don't know what to say, be honest. If you feel awkward talking about something, let your brother know.
  • Be a good listener. Pay attention to verbal and nonverbal behavior.
  • Ask questions that will help you gain understanding.

All  in all, talk to your brother, with patience, let him know how you feel  about what is happening (without blaming him for how you feel) and let  him know how would you like your relationship with him to be. Try to  find a way out of this together, with him.
 
Good luck!

Warm regards,
Joseph
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Ask the Psychologist / my brother
« Last post by andrew on July 24, 2010, 07:38:09 PM »
our family owns a business and i work with my brother in which lately i have been noting that we are in big competion between us in every thing i actualy feel that my brother has been copying my life style in every way as he started to talk like me, act like me, dress like and even he wanted to learn flying, since every body asks him, are you adrews brother the pilot,at first i did not mind it but lately it has been realy upsetting me and making me anxious as i feel that my charchter is being stolen, add to that his wife seems to desrespect my wife , as she ignores her all the time and trys to downgrade her in front of people, i realy dont know what to do ilove mybther but this realy upsets me to the extend that i dont want to see him any more, please dont ask me to be the biger guy even though i am the youner brother,now i am in competion with him and i want always to be better than him and this is making the situation worse
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General Discussion / Boards
« Last post by Joseph on July 24, 2010, 03:49:31 PM »
Because this forum is new and I do not see the point of having empty boards, I did not create them.

Feel free to talk about anything and everything in this board and, over time, when we'll have many topics, I'll create separate boards for each.

See ya around!
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General Discussion / What is Psychology
« Last post by Joseph on July 24, 2010, 03:42:59 PM »
Psychology is a scientific, academic, and applied discipline that involves the study of human or other animal mental functions and behaviors. In this field, a professional practitioner or researcher is called a psychologist. Psychologists are classified as social or behavioral scientists. Psychologists attempt to understand the role of mental functions in individual and social behavior, while also exploring underlying physiological and neurological processes.

Basic research in psychology includes perception, cognition, attention, emotion, motivation, brain functioning, personality, behavior, and interpersonal relationships. Some, especially depth psychologists, also consider the unconscious mind.a Psychologists employ empirical methods to determine causal and correlational relationships between psychosocial variables. In addition, or in opposition, to employing empirical and deductive methods, clinical psychologists sometimes rely upon symbolic interpretation and other inductive techniques.

While psychological knowledge is typically applied to the assessment and treatment of mental health problems, it is also applied to understanding and solving problems in many different spheres of human activity. The vast majority of psychologists are involved in clinical, counseling, and school positions, some are employed in the industrial and organizational setting, and other areas such as human development and aging, sports, health, the media, legal, and forensics. Psychology incorporates research from the social sciences, natural sciences, and humanities.
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